I can’t begin to imagine how difficult it must be to have to try to figure out how to explain homosexuality, especially within the family, to a child. Even having been one of those children, the idea of bearing that responsibility in another young life is frightening to me, and I have a lot more experience with the topic than most.
As scary as it might be, I urge you to press on and in and find a way, allow me to explain why.
I’m not a parent, yet, but I am blessed to be the Aunt of 4 nephews and two nieces. I learned a whole new level of love when these children came into the world. There’s nothing quite like being loved by a child. The pure joy they exude at just having you near- It makes you feel a sense of value that not much else can stir. Children don’t love to get anything from you, they love for lovings sake and it’s beautiful to be a part of.
In the face of that kind of love, I can’t help but love back. I would do anything to protect these little ones and I want more than anything for them to know and understand how much they are loved, not just by me and their other aunts and uncles and parents, but also by God. Knowing that they are not only loved by the Creator, but that they were planned by him, that they were intended, is so important in helping them know who they are.
Yes, the idea of having to explain homosexuality, in whatever context you find yourself having to explain it, to your children, grandchildren, nieces or nephews is scary. Yes, it’s a great responsibility, for you and for them. But you have a beautiful opportunity to help them see how they were intended by God, that he went to great lengths to make sure that they were born. For me, this has been one of the single most important things I’ve ever come to understand about myself. God wanted me so much, that he brought together two people who, according to the rest of the world, should never have come together.
Whatever your fears, children’s imaginations can grow bigger ones, and no matter what you think… they know something is different. The monster in their heads can do so much more damage than the truth, so tell them the truth, the truth points them to who God created them to be. We’ve talked a lot here about redemption, and how it includes every part of our lives, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Our whole story is important, and however homosexuality is impacting your family, it’s a part of your children’s stories, they deserve to know all of their story and be able to see God’s hand in it.